Friday, March 27, 2009

Oh, Baby!

I have asked some friends of mine single, gay, straight and lesbians whether they would like to have a baby. Most of them said that they love having a baby. I don't know but I also want to have a baby like having a wife and a family but I don't know how long will I able to stand and having the responsibility of being the man in the house. I was thinking that if I would be a very rich person that I would be like MJ or Ricky Martin or Clay Aiken perhaps. But I think it is so selfish to have a child just because you love having a child and he would be living in this world without a mother or an ideal family. I know how hard it is to living without your parents around, you have that self-pity and hatred towards them, towards the world for bringing you here without even giving you the choice if you want to be born or not. I don't know how does it feel either to be a baby maker, like if you are a girl then you would carry that baby around for nine months and then get taken from you after that. I don't know but having a baby is something that I have been dreaming of today but I know that its not as easy as getting a puppy, well even getting a puppy is very complicated now adays plus I have to consider my financial stability but if ever given a chance and my financial status would improve then I might consider the option of having a child of my own and I have to be emotionally capable at that time too. I just don't know when that will happen.
It could have been nice to have a child just like your best friend or your playmate. I just don't know how does it feel to have a child of your own, I would be very happy, I think.

10 comments :

  1. I think you should leave Clay Aiken out of your musings since his child does have a mother who is co-parenting with him. His son is one VERY lucky boy.

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  2. just ask a favor from a friend. ako naman, plano ko magadopt nalang someday :)

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  3. Clay Aiken didn't hire a surrogate. They are raising the baby as a family unit with both a mother and a father.

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  4. what the hell is wrong for having to pick Clay Aiken anyway? lol. I don't see the point. Besides, he can be Elton John if he wants to.

    as what Herbs D. said, you can always ask a friend a favor.

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  5. sigh. this also crossed my mind

    http://thedreamingattic.blogspot.com

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  6. i dunno... i just think na outdated na yung archetypes ng "mother" and "father." di na kailangan isang lalake at isang babae ang mag-magulang sa anak. minsan dalawang lalake or dalawang babae.. gay couples have raised wonderful children naman, diba? minsan nga straight pa yung lumalabas. haha madami naman akong friends na single parents ang nag-palaki pero super well-balanced sila. siguro it's just in the way the kids are raised.. hmm.. that's just my two cents. :D

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  7. well i just thought how lucky is clay for having a baby of his own.
    @herbs: i was thinking about this but i have doubts and fears
    @cb: yes there are a lot of single parents out there who raised wonderful children but just in my case i think i was raised well but you have that hatred towards your parents i dunno, i just cant avoid it.

    i sometimes think that this is a wonderful idea but i think its kinda selfish too.

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  8. at some point, most guys discover the natural inclination to be a father. not selfish at all. it is when a narcissistic urge to have a baby-as-chew-toy intervenes and interferes with that natural inclination, that is when we are to worry.

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